
My relationship, my spiritual relationship, with God is based on the six great themes of the Bible: love, humility, gratitude, trust, obedience and service; all of which are founded on the underlying concept of surrender. All the themes, one way or another, are brought to life, they’re empowered by surrender, to God and to other people. In a supernatural way, this is the attitude of Jesus that flows through us when we surrender to Him.
When I pray, I usually begin by ‘praying through the themes’ one at a time, as they relate to me and my relationship with God. Every time, I see something new about how I should love God; humble myself before Him; be thankful for all the ways He blesses me; renew my trust in Him as it relates to all my other relationships, my cares and my troubles; confess my failures in obedience and renew my commitment to do His will and not mine, to have His attitude and not mine; and as my act of service, to deny myself, die to myself, and follow (surrender to) Him; so He can use me for His purposes in this world today.
So I was praying for my son today, my youngest son Ian, who is a freshman in college and is going through some major, life-changing events and decisions that will affect him for the rest of his life. It is a challenging time, but a truly exhilarating time, to be alive in his world. He has asked me to pray for him, which I am always happy to do. I do pray for him every day anyway. Today, I started a new practice, of praying for Ian the way I pray for myself. It opens all kinds of new doors for me to think about in praying for him; not just about what he should do or not do; but also about all his relationships, with God and with others, that I can meditate on and consider how God is moving and working in Ian’s life and the lives of those around him. (They may need a little prayer too!)
There’s a limited amount of time to ‘really’ pray (like this) for all the people that are close to me; so I think I’ll need to spend more of my ‘unstructured’ time (formerly known as leisure time, ha!), when I’m driving down the road, or waiting in the doctor’s office, or waiting for an appointment, praying in this way for others. God only knows what the results might be, for them and for me.

I used to have these long spells when I’d get down and pray, and nothing was happening. Sometimes I’d go for months without praying at all till something really bad would happen and I’d start trying again. Then I discovered something. Every time I’d get really desperate, when I was so worried and so scared and so depressed about my life, and so cornered with nowhere to go, I’d really have a spell of knowing what bad shape I was in, and how bad I needed God, and how weak I am and how strong He is; and how stupid I am, and how Wise and Smart He is, and how ‘out of control’ I am, and how ‘IN CONTROL’ He is, and what a stupid jerk I am and what a MERCIFUL GOD He is, and I’d feel this blanket of peace and forgiveness and love settle over me like I never felt before. (It’s happening to me right now; Wow!) I call it ‘humbling yourself before the Lord’. I don’t know if that’s all it is; but that’s sorta the central point I think. After I had that experience a few times, I started trying it on purpose, instead of accidentally, and IT WORKED. I would actually feel the Presence of God, right there, right then! (right here, right now!) Try it; see what happens.
“A man’s words are a mirror to his soul.” Unknown.
“God has a purpose for your life. All you’ve got to do is figure out what it is.” [This is from a letter to my ‘young-adult’ kids in 1995] “I used to wonder what I was doing here. Sometimes I even wondered what you were doing here. I finally got the message. God has a plan for my life. Actually, I think He has a plan for every person’s life, but some folks never figure out what it is.
“We take in strays, orphans and widderwimen.” (see James 1:27)


And she answered and said to Him, “Yes, Lord, yet even the little dogs under the table eat from the children’s crumbs.” Then He said to her, “For this saying go your way; the demon has gone out of your daughter.” And when she had come to her house, she found the demon gone out, and her daughter lying on the bed.”